Enough is Enough: It’s Time to Conquer Your Fear of Rejection

I hate rejection and to varying degrees we all do. However, some are people are better at it than others. Case in point, my sister-in-law Latricia, will ask anyone for anything. Her motto is, “All they can say is no.” That’s my point exactly. They can say is no and that’s why I avoid asking. But my stance isn’t biblical and for the last seven months God has been instructing me to reject rejection. In other words, to not fear rejection.

Last summer God directed me to send the Surrender Fast devotional to people of influence. I generated a list and got to mailing. This is not typically my style, I like people to find me, but if God was asking me to do it He must have a plan!

The first few thanks-for-the-book, I-hope God-blesses-you notes were tolerable, but after 10+ rejection letters it was all getting to be a bit much and last Sunday it culminated in me having one big pity-party:

God where are you in all of this?! I look desperate. You could make them support this book. So why aren’t you? 

As if God owes me an explanation. But in His compassion He revealed to me that the book mailing process had little to do with someone liking and supporting the book. It was about Him teaching me a valuable lesson regarding rejection.

Jesus told the Seventy in Luke 10:46, “Whoever listens to you listens to me; whoever rejects you rejects me; but whoever rejects me rejects him who sent me.” In other words, when you are in God’s will, rejection has nothing to do with you and all to do with Christ.

For that reason we aren’t to fear rejection and avoid it all cost. No, we are to anticipate it and keep doing God’s will no matter what.

After my melt down I also learned that I feared rejection because of pride. I was too proud to beg! And too proud to ask for help unless I thought some big reward was to follow. However, if I am to be used by God I have to trust Him, let go of the pride, and do whatever He is asking. And so do you.

To help you accomplish the goal of rejecting rejection here are 3 lessons I’ve learned:

  1. Reject Rejection – As stated earlier don’t avoid rejection rather reject it when it comes. Ps 118: 6 reminds us,  “The LORD is for me, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?”
  2. Reject Rejection, but not your feelings – Rejection feels bad. Period. And the worst thing to do is to stuff down your feelings. When you are rejected and it bothers you take your feelings to God. He understands. Even Jesus cried out to God when he was hurting.  “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done (Luke 22:42).” If Jesus had to do it, so will you.
  3. Reject Rejection, but not those who reject you – To reject the person is to miss the whole point. God is in control and what will be, will be. The Word tells us, “The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD; he directs it like a watercourse wherever he pleases” (Proverbs 21:1).  It also reminds us “What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8:31).

This week and from now on God is commanding you to Reject Rejection! It’s time to conquer this fear and live the abundant life God intended for you from the beginning.

With God all things are possible,
Dr. Celeste

Join us this week on the Morning Prayer call as we complete our last week of the series Enough is Enough! For the next two days we will continue with our discussion on FEAR (2/6-2/7/13).

Join us for Cycle 5 of Surrender Fast 2013 which begins February 18.

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8 thoughts on “Enough is Enough: It’s Time to Conquer Your Fear of Rejection

  1. Have we ever considered how often we reject God and His instruction by worrying about who rejects us. In scripture God’s says don’t worry about who rejects you – they rejected Me. That’s a nice way of God saying (don’t be so full of yourself). Yet we are so pressed to be accepted by man – whose appreciation and accolades of us are short-lived, & at best temporal. Thus, we practice rejection against the God who loves us, evidenced by the fact He gave His son to die for us. God’s words of affirmation, blessings and accolades will never fail! Get that – never fail! I am so determined to Reject Rejection by believing what God says about me!

    • Thanks Pastor Deborah! That’s a good, yet tough word. “We practice rejection against God who loves us” Ouch! Thanks for the reminder to put our priorities in order and surrender to our God who’s love is unfailing! Be blessed.

  2. Monyca Hall

    I am dealing with my son right now who feels rejected by his father. No matter what age it is hard to deal with rejection. I know now in doing the Surrender Fast for the third time that I make more of a conscious effort to deal with my fear of rejection. I remind myself that my relationship with God is far more important than what I predict may happen in the end. No matter what, God has me so man can only hurt me for a moment and I have survived past rejection that has come to me. It is just in that moment that you feel you won’t survive….but you will, I will, we will. Peace and Blessings!!

    • Amen Monyca! It may seem in the moment that the rejection is too great but in the end we survive. Well said. About your son…comfort him the way the spirit instructs. God will take care of him and use you to help him make it through this emotionally challenging time. Be blessed!

  3. Krisann Johnson

    Dr. Celeste, thank you for your testimony this morning. As I listened, I thought about how rejection is another trick of the enemy, and how it keeps us in bondage from God’s blessings. I love what God is doing for you and your ministry.

    I was rejected often, and I didn’t know how to go to God, so I suppressed my feelings; and the more I suppressed my feelings, the more I felt rejected. It certainly was a troublesome place; but Glory be to God. I hold Him in my heart by reading his Word daily, and trusting and believing in Him. He delivered me from the fears and pain of my past on January 9, this year, and I have laid down my life for Him–I am so forever grateful. As a result, I am able to discern and face my fears with God’s love–knowing that I am His, and His alone.

    Ladyd couldn’t have said it better that “we reject God and His instruction by worrying about who rejects us.” Wow!! So, so, true. That statement has empowered and encouraged me more–I don’t want to reject God and His instruction–otherwise the abundant life He has promised me (us) will be delayed; and we don’t want that. I love God more than I could ever, ever have imagined! I thank God for caring for me daily–I don’t want to live without Him! I can finally say that I am paying attention to my life!

    I also thank God for you and your team Dr. Celeste, and I look forward to how God will use me (us) during Cycle 5 as I read Psalm 5:1-3 each morning of the fast:

    “Give ear to my words, O Lord, consider my sighing, Listen to my cry for help, my King and my God, for to you I pray. In the morning, O Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation.” Psalm 5:1-3 (Life Application Study Bible–NIV)

    • Hi Krisann. Thanks for the scripture. Also, thanks for sharing your testimony. All I can say is “WOW!” God is awesome. He has so much in store for you. Even now He is using you to encourage others. I praise God for what He has done!!!

  4. Ms Angela L Vann

    Good afternoon, Dr. Celeste! Today makes Day 24 of the fast for me! I’m feeling “rejuvenated!” 🙂 For one thing, I’ve started attending another church! It is more me, if you will! And for another thing, I’ve gotten more “creative and witty ideas” which I’ve started to implement! I’m really, really looking forward to seeing what God does now! 🙂 And speaking of rejection, learning to “not take it personally” is quite the process! 🙂 Thanks, for sharing! Happy, happy Wednesday – already! Shalom!

    • Angela great to hear from you! There was no way for you to know this, but your message to us is right on time! You wrote, “And speaking of rejection, learning to “not take it personally” is quite the process!” I just had an exchange with someone that was offensive and I am literally sitting here encouraging myself to exercise humility and not take it personal. Your message came at the right time! I will not take it personally. There…done! 🙂 Thanks!

      Also Day 24. Awesome. I am equally excited about your new (church) residence. I pray you grow and flourish in your new home.

      Check back in before you end and keep us up-to-date on your progress.

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