I hate rejection and to varying degrees we all do. However, some are people are better at it than others. Case in point, my sister-in-law Latricia, will ask anyone for anything. Her motto is, “All they can say is no.” That’s my point exactly. They can say is no and that’s why I avoid asking. But my stance isn’t biblical and for the last seven months God has been instructing me to reject rejection. In other words, to not fear rejection.
Last summer God directed me to send the Surrender Fast devotional to people of influence. I generated a list and got to mailing. This is not typically my style, I like people to find me, but if God was asking me to do it He must have a plan!
The first few thanks-for-the-book, I-hope God-blesses-you notes were tolerable, but after 10+ rejection letters it was all getting to be a bit much and last Sunday it culminated in me having one big pity-party:
God where are you in all of this?! I look desperate. You could make them support this book. So why aren’t you?
As if God owes me an explanation. But in His compassion He revealed to me that the book mailing process had little to do with someone liking and supporting the book. It was about Him teaching me a valuable lesson regarding rejection.
Jesus told the Seventy in Luke 10:46, “Whoever listens to you listens to me; whoever rejects you rejects me; but whoever rejects me rejects him who sent me.” In other words, when you are in God’s will, rejection has nothing to do with you and all to do with Christ.
For that reason we aren’t to fear rejection and avoid it all cost. No, we are to anticipate it and keep doing God’s will no matter what.
After my melt down I also learned that I feared rejection because of pride. I was too proud to beg! And too proud to ask for help unless I thought some big reward was to follow. However, if I am to be used by God I have to trust Him, let go of the pride, and do whatever He is asking. And so do you.
To help you accomplish the goal of rejecting rejection here are 3 lessons I’ve learned:
- Reject Rejection – As stated earlier don’t avoid rejection rather reject it when it comes. Ps 118: 6 reminds us, “The LORD is for me, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?”
- Reject Rejection, but not your feelings – Rejection feels bad. Period. And the worst thing to do is to stuff down your feelings. When you are rejected and it bothers you take your feelings to God. He understands. Even Jesus cried out to God when he was hurting. “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done (Luke 22:42).” If Jesus had to do it, so will you.
- Reject Rejection, but not those who reject you – To reject the person is to miss the whole point. God is in control and what will be, will be. The Word tells us, “The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD; he directs it like a watercourse wherever he pleases” (Proverbs 21:1). It also reminds us “What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8:31).
This week and from now on God is commanding you to Reject Rejection! It’s time to conquer this fear and live the abundant life God intended for you from the beginning.
With God all things are possible,
Join us this week on the Morning Prayer call as we complete our last week of the series Enough is Enough! For the next two days we will continue with our discussion on FEAR (2/6-2/7/13).
Join us for Cycle 5 of Surrender Fast 2013 which begins February 18.